Three Ways to Rejuvenate a Dying Relationship

When it comes to a long-term relationship, it's no wonder we often miss the marginal boundaries that separate "warm-passionate" union from the "dull-routine" coexistence. People get used to each other. Mutual fire burns out, attraction pales.

Partners. Friends. Comrades.

Everything but not lovers. It shows up every day: in conversations in front of the TV in the living room, in the words we use to address each other, common phrases we throw into the air to exchange information. It's all downhill from here, unless we become aware that something needs to be changed.

Here are three simple ways of reviving a dying relationship:

1. Common hobby.

It can be anything: diving, ballroom dancing, horse-riding, volunteering. After all the years, you should know your partner well enough to guess what kind of activity he or she will be more interested in. A couple of friends of mine regained their happiness by spending an hour every week dancing tango. Not liking the idea at the beginning, the guy, suddenless, became a passionate hobbyist. This couple has revealed a whole new world within themselves.

2. "You Watch your Phraseology!" ("Music Man")

Casual words you're saying to each other, nicknames you call or do not call each other, intonation, speed and volume of speech – all this matter. Start with making up simple, cute nicknames you would call each other. No, it does not have to be "pussy-cat", "sugar-babe" or anything creamy-sweet. Anything that makes you both feel content, like "acid-bear", will do.

Second: Watch yourself while you're talking to your partner. No matter what it is, we often heard not what is being said but how it is being said.

3. A Third, fourth and fifth party.

Slowly but surely, widen the circle of your mutual friends. Why? When you are two fish in a pond you are solely focused on each other. But when you're in a company, naturally, you start behaving in a different way and it may give your relationship a few significant advantages:

– Watching each other- it's a lot easier to make impression on your partner through other people. When he / she sees how others accept you, laugh at your jokes, give you compliments – it gives a food for thought. "Maybe there is something I am missing?"

– Self-control – the chances you'll have a fight when there are people around are extremely low. Public fighting is something you both can refrain from, while igniting a brawl when nobody can hear and see you is a lot more tempting. Especially when we're talking about stale relationships.

Simple as these tips may seem, before making any steps you should realize, that it takes two to tango. Which means, both of you need to acknowledge there is a problem in the first place. Trying to save a sinking ship without cooperation is a dead end. Think up a strategy you think best matches your couple. Share your thoughts with your partner, make sure you both agree. Then … Go for it!

Source by Kay Brix

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